You’re engaged! Congratulations! What excitement awaits, yet some daunting decisions to make. I hope this blog helps you with that much-needed pros and cons of eloping vs. planning that big extravagant wedding.
First let’s just cut to the chase about cost. Undoubtedly the cost of a wedding means the rehearsal dinner, the wedding ceremony, the reception and all the comes with them. That dream wedding vision will typically cost at least $30K or more. Where a destination wedding is no more than half as much.
Let’s walk thru this one by one. Most weddings have a lot of decisions to make as well as many unwanted opinions from venues, to food, to flowers, to colors and on and on. The more people involved the more opinions good and bad. With an elopement those opinions are far more scarce leaving you to make your own decisions and more often together as a couple. Who doesn’t like to plan a trip or imagine being on one?
When you elope however, you will only invite your closest friends and family. This could cause hurt feelings and disappointment to those guests that can’t make that trip or perhaps don’t get invite to your more intimate affair. Making the decision on who you really want at your wedding is likely either easy or difficult. One thought perhaps is that if it’s truly easy, elopement might just be for you after all! Most couples I know will agree they have far more people at their big weddings they don’t know well. Surrounding yourself by those who matter most means they will likely be the same people who matter most at your 25th anniversary!
What do you imagine for your big day? Do you imagine a gorgeous church wedding and that’s all that you can think of? Or do imagine a beautiful landscape with a beach or mountains or loads of green space? Or maybe the most romantic places in the world is the right destination for your wedding? The choices really can be endless. The con, it’s not the big soiree and less attendees, which also mean a lot less presents.
Privacy is another consideration for your wedding day. It’s certainly not very private to conduct a ceremony on a public beach. But on the other hand, does it matter? Only you can decide. I have seen many of them and as a spectator, it’s uplifting and romantic! Imagine the backdrops for those wedding shots!
There are significant considerations when planning a destination wedding vs. a simple elopement in Las Vegas. One of my good friends married in Las Vegas and she was happy to do it. Saved her significant money and she could afford a trip too. But, once she really saw that red carpet she realized it wasn’t really what she had hoped and she felt disappointed on her big day. She wished she had gone somewhere more romantic and had good pictures. She also expressed missing her family. She chose to keep it to a couple of family members, thus those who mattered most to her missed her big day and couldn’t share those memories.
Choosing your location well is one of the very best suggestions I can give for elopements or destination weddings. As I have traveled the world and seen many beautiful places, my knowledge guides my couples to the perfect wedding spot. With the location in mind, I know the right photographer for your wedding is critical and worth the expenditure. Remember the pro is that with your elopement you are already saving! You won’t have tons of wedding guests getting lots of extra shots, so your photographer not only needs to make up for that, but must make the destination count as well. One of my photographers loves this work and has been published in several magazines for her work. Imagine looking back at these amazing photos!
Great choices I recommend: Florence, Rome, Panama, San Miguel, Mexico City, New York, Chicago, Riviera Maya, Puerto Vallarta, Reykjavik
The last thing I will leave with is that memories is truly what you are after. Your wedding day should and will be special, but it goes by so quickly. Making your day truly memorable and uniquely special is the primary goal. How you achieve this goal is up to you. My passion is to make dreams come true while bringing our own boutique style approach. It’s uniquely yours, and yours alone.
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About Shannon: Shannon Lemp is an international wedding planner and stylist. Although St. Louis, MO and Chicago, IL are her typical hot spots for weddings and events, she loves to destination weddings as well! Ever thought of Iceland? She's been there too! Contact Info: Shannon Lemp, Wedding Planner & Wedding Stylist email@example.com 314.398.2900
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Hmmm, so not exactly sure what your “wedding vision or style” is, such as rustic chic (see Naomi & Zack), seaside elegant, bohemian romance, traditional, vintage, romantic, modern, or something altogether you?
Defining your style means taking a step back and looking at the two of you as a couple. Are you both more traditional? Love antiques? Love the beach? Quirky and eclectic or maybe just modern and clean? I found a great website that provides a quiz for this very topic. Here’s the link. It might just help you figure out what suits you best!
So maybe you found that both of you are modern and simple. Now what? Well, classics are good with less fuss for example. Stemware is cleaner and simpler lines. Or perhaps focusing on incorporating colors in unique ways might a way to demonstrate your couple aura.
So, what are the hot colors for 2018 you ask? The colors range from deep purple to various shades of pink, with of course the “rose” pink being popular. Grays are still in this year and are complimented with a butter shade or seaside blues. Note, no need to be beachy by choosing these shades as they can be incorporated for a serene and modern design. They key is to work with a planner or wedding designer who understands your vision, if you know it, and acts as your guide in making it all come together. Those DIY couples can certainly be creative on their own if they have the time. Time is often the challenge for my couples, and yes creativity may not be their top strengths or they just can’t create it all on their own.
I once worked with a couple who knew exactly what they wanted. They love the circus! It was a second wedding for both and they had many kids in their family so they also wanted to make it fun. The challenge was how to incorporate a circus theme yet not design it like it’s a kid’s event. Yes, I was up for this challenge and yes it worked my creativity wheels. Incorporating the circus theme into the wedding invitations and the wedding program was a starting point. Of course, both required a very custom design. I engaged a local graphic designer and my clients were thrilled with the result! The tables were also numbered allowing another use of the same design to tie it all together. We even had a giant Cracker Jack Box to hold the cards! It was a huge hit and certainly a statement piece! We made it come together, the guests were delighted at such a uniquely tailored wedding for my clients. I did have a quick sigh of relief as I do making sure every wedding day is perfect, and this was no exception.
The key to defining your wedding style is sort of like defining your couple’s brand. Like designing a logo perhaps for a business, the designer must first understand what you truly like, what you don’t like, what interests you, and of course what makes you both unique. A friend’s wedding may have been very lovely, but, you of course want something different and you should want a wedding designed for YOU.
Okay enough of why you should be unique and back to styling. For example, rustic chic wedding trend is very popular right now. Vintage markets are a big hit throughout the country and its popularity is infusing weddings. It speaks to being grounded, to being warm and inviting and less “fussy.” If that’s you, there are countless ideas for making this style work for you. How rustic do you go? Perhaps mason jars aren’t ideal for your drink glasses, but maybe they are perfect for floral arrangements? Hydrangeas look lovely in them! Creative thinking is all you need here and that’s my passion.
Even with classic or traditional, there are charming and personal ways to leave your mark for your wedding day. It could be something done a bit differently at the wedding or it could be sharing wedding stories you’ve collected from family memories and displaying them around the reception in beautiful ways. There are always ideas to make it more special and unique with every wedding style.
I hope my wedding blog sparks some curiosity about you and your partner and how you can make sure your wedding is ALL about you in a memorable and impactful way. Do you want your guests to talk about your big day for years to come and how special it was? Weddings by nature are never something anyone forgets; HOWEVER, you can be sure that even the smallest of details are unforgettable …because that’s what you are!
About Shannon: Shannon Lemp is an international wedding planner and stylist. Although St. Louis, MO and Chicago, IL are her typical hot spots for weddings and events, she loves to destination weddings as well! Ever thought of Iceland? She's been there too! Contact Info: Shannon Lemp, Wedding Planner & Wedding Stylist firstname.lastname@example.org 314.398.2900.
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Recent Panache and Promises couple Hannah and Nick had quite a large wedding party… 7 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen! That’s a bit larger than the average. Most couples choose 4 friends and family for each side. But there are no hard and fast rules for picking that magic number. But there are many variables to consider…
Big groups of styled, beautiful bridesmaids and groomsmen can look and feel fabulous… but with greater numbers come more problems. Take these things into consideration before you ask your friends and family to have such a huge role.
Bride's: Your Best Don't List
Do you have an endless list of what needs to get accomplished? The organizing, the phone calls, the shopping and the wedding party.........
Keep your don't list handy and keep things in perspective.
1. Don't go shopping for wedding dresses after you have already purchased your gown.
If your bridal shop did not complete your finished look then and only then should you enter a bridal shop for your veil or accessories. But purchasing a veil without your gown is like buying a lamp shade without the lamp.
Clue: Find the one and only perfect boutique such as The Enchanted Bride. This is not the time to drag your dress around town or get advise from inexperienced bridal consultants.
2. After you have decided on your wedding décor with your florist and wedding planner STOP surfing wedding websites for more ideas. Your decorating budget won't expand, but your mind will explode....risking the bridezilla effect.
3. Keep your wedding plans to yourself and your planner. Forget Instagram postings of every detail. The WOW effect when guests enter your reception will be even WOWER if the details remain a surprise.
4. Losing weight? Remember your fiance loves you just the way you are. Be smart--simply eat healthy and exercise for a happy stress free lifestyle.
5. Fred Astaire meets Ginger....keep your first dance simple or take dancing lessons at Prestige Ballroom and keep Ginger and Fred on the silver screen.
Keep organized by downloading great phone apps to stay on top of wedding details:
Check out: Appy Couple
Be confident in your choices.
Carry smart snacks in your bag....and buy a great pair of shoes. A bride can never have too many of those!
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