You’re engaged! Congratulations! What excitement awaits, yet some daunting decisions to make. I hope this blog helps you with that much-needed pros and cons of eloping vs. planning that big extravagant wedding.
First let’s just cut to the chase about cost. Undoubtedly the cost of a wedding means the rehearsal dinner, the wedding ceremony, the reception and all the comes with them. That dream wedding vision will typically cost at least $30K or more. Where a destination wedding is no more than half as much.
Let’s walk thru this one by one. Most weddings have a lot of decisions to make as well as many unwanted opinions from venues, to food, to flowers, to colors and on and on. The more people involved the more opinions good and bad. With an elopement those opinions are far more scarce leaving you to make your own decisions and more often together as a couple. Who doesn’t like to plan a trip or imagine being on one?
When you elope however, you will only invite your closest friends and family. This could cause hurt feelings and disappointment to those guests that can’t make that trip or perhaps don’t get invite to your more intimate affair. Making the decision on who you really want at your wedding is likely either easy or difficult. One thought perhaps is that if it’s truly easy, elopement might just be for you after all! Most couples I know will agree they have far more people at their big weddings they don’t know well. Surrounding yourself by those who matter most means they will likely be the same people who matter most at your 25th anniversary!
What do you imagine for your big day? Do you imagine a gorgeous church wedding and that’s all that you can think of? Or do imagine a beautiful landscape with a beach or mountains or loads of green space? Or maybe the most romantic places in the world is the right destination for your wedding? The choices really can be endless. The con, it’s not the big soiree and less attendees, which also mean a lot less presents.
Privacy is another consideration for your wedding day. It’s certainly not very private to conduct a ceremony on a public beach. But on the other hand, does it matter? Only you can decide. I have seen many of them and as a spectator, it’s uplifting and romantic! Imagine the backdrops for those wedding shots!
There are significant considerations when planning a destination wedding vs. a simple elopement in Las Vegas. One of my good friends married in Las Vegas and she was happy to do it. Saved her significant money and she could afford a trip too. But, once she really saw that red carpet she realized it wasn’t really what she had hoped and she felt disappointed on her big day. She wished she had gone somewhere more romantic and had good pictures. She also expressed missing her family. She chose to keep it to a couple of family members, thus those who mattered most to her missed her big day and couldn’t share those memories.
Choosing your location well is one of the very best suggestions I can give for elopements or destination weddings. As I have traveled the world and seen many beautiful places, my knowledge guides my couples to the perfect wedding spot. With the location in mind, I know the right photographer for your wedding is critical and worth the expenditure. Remember the pro is that with your elopement you are already saving! You won’t have tons of wedding guests getting lots of extra shots, so your photographer not only needs to make up for that, but must make the destination count as well. One of my photographers loves this work and has been published in several magazines for her work. Imagine looking back at these amazing photos!
Great choices I recommend: Florence, Rome, Panama, San Miguel, Mexico City, New York, Chicago, Riviera Maya, Puerto Vallarta, Reykjavik
The last thing I will leave with is that memories is truly what you are after. Your wedding day should and will be special, but it goes by so quickly. Making your day truly memorable and uniquely special is the primary goal. How you achieve this goal is up to you. My passion is to make dreams come true while bringing our own boutique style approach. It’s uniquely yours, and yours alone.
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About Shannon: Shannon Lemp is an international wedding planner and stylist. Although St. Louis, MO and Chicago, IL are her typical hot spots for weddings and events, she loves to destination weddings as well! Ever thought of Iceland? She's been there too! Contact Info: Shannon Lemp, Wedding Planner & Wedding Stylist email@example.com 314.398.2900
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Hmmm, so not exactly sure what your “wedding vision or style” is, such as rustic chic (see Naomi & Zack), seaside elegant, bohemian romance, traditional, vintage, romantic, modern, or something altogether you?
Defining your style means taking a step back and looking at the two of you as a couple. Are you both more traditional? Love antiques? Love the beach? Quirky and eclectic or maybe just modern and clean? I found a great website that provides a quiz for this very topic. Here’s the link. It might just help you figure out what suits you best!
So maybe you found that both of you are modern and simple. Now what? Well, classics are good with less fuss for example. Stemware is cleaner and simpler lines. Or perhaps focusing on incorporating colors in unique ways might a way to demonstrate your couple aura.
So, what are the hot colors for 2018 you ask? The colors range from deep purple to various shades of pink, with of course the “rose” pink being popular. Grays are still in this year and are complimented with a butter shade or seaside blues. Note, no need to be beachy by choosing these shades as they can be incorporated for a serene and modern design. They key is to work with a planner or wedding designer who understands your vision, if you know it, and acts as your guide in making it all come together. Those DIY couples can certainly be creative on their own if they have the time. Time is often the challenge for my couples, and yes creativity may not be their top strengths or they just can’t create it all on their own.
I once worked with a couple who knew exactly what they wanted. They love the circus! It was a second wedding for both and they had many kids in their family so they also wanted to make it fun. The challenge was how to incorporate a circus theme yet not design it like it’s a kid’s event. Yes, I was up for this challenge and yes it worked my creativity wheels. Incorporating the circus theme into the wedding invitations and the wedding program was a starting point. Of course, both required a very custom design. I engaged a local graphic designer and my clients were thrilled with the result! The tables were also numbered allowing another use of the same design to tie it all together. We even had a giant Cracker Jack Box to hold the cards! It was a huge hit and certainly a statement piece! We made it come together, the guests were delighted at such a uniquely tailored wedding for my clients. I did have a quick sigh of relief as I do making sure every wedding day is perfect, and this was no exception.
The key to defining your wedding style is sort of like defining your couple’s brand. Like designing a logo perhaps for a business, the designer must first understand what you truly like, what you don’t like, what interests you, and of course what makes you both unique. A friend’s wedding may have been very lovely, but, you of course want something different and you should want a wedding designed for YOU.
Okay enough of why you should be unique and back to styling. For example, rustic chic wedding trend is very popular right now. Vintage markets are a big hit throughout the country and its popularity is infusing weddings. It speaks to being grounded, to being warm and inviting and less “fussy.” If that’s you, there are countless ideas for making this style work for you. How rustic do you go? Perhaps mason jars aren’t ideal for your drink glasses, but maybe they are perfect for floral arrangements? Hydrangeas look lovely in them! Creative thinking is all you need here and that’s my passion.
Even with classic or traditional, there are charming and personal ways to leave your mark for your wedding day. It could be something done a bit differently at the wedding or it could be sharing wedding stories you’ve collected from family memories and displaying them around the reception in beautiful ways. There are always ideas to make it more special and unique with every wedding style.
I hope my wedding blog sparks some curiosity about you and your partner and how you can make sure your wedding is ALL about you in a memorable and impactful way. Do you want your guests to talk about your big day for years to come and how special it was? Weddings by nature are never something anyone forgets; HOWEVER, you can be sure that even the smallest of details are unforgettable …because that’s what you are!
About Shannon: Shannon Lemp is an international wedding planner and stylist. Although St. Louis, MO and Chicago, IL are her typical hot spots for weddings and events, she loves to destination weddings as well! Ever thought of Iceland? She's been there too! Contact Info: Shannon Lemp, Wedding Planner & Wedding Stylist firstname.lastname@example.org 314.398.2900.
Millennial brides and grooms have a new standard--there is no standard. Certainly the excitement and anticipation of their wedding day is everything it always has been but the special moments are more intimate. The way couples experience their love and share the wedding day is their unique story. This couple who have been together for some years didn't want to spend half the day apart from each other. Their choice was to help each other get dressed for the wedding day. Here the groom is helping his lovely bride into her dress. Seriously romantic! Seriously their couple story! A wedding day together, forever in love.
My Blush Events specializes in micro weddings and boutique events. Our love stories and inspirational styled shoots showcase some of our best work and vendor partners. www.myblushevents.com
I choose you. I’ll choose you over and over. Without pause, without doubt in a heartbeat I’ll keep choosing you.
Elope with your wedding team-planner, photographer, stylist and don't forget your sweetheart. Achieving your wedding look doesn't just happen, it's planned. We know how to achieve your look and in record time if you need. Our last elopement was planned in 10 days. We know how to align the stars, just for you. Cody Krogman photo,
Sweetheart Table Finesse
What makes your sweetheart table special? 10 ways to add to your wedding experience.
Checklist for designing your sweetheart table:
1. Be visible to guests.
That might mean using a riser and don’t forget to add a riser step.
2. Keep flower height below your face.
Add lush greenery around the perimeter, your bouquet on its side
Design a theme wall or arch such as a gentle waterfall or a roses wall
4. Table linens
Choose a linen design that sets you apart from the guest tables-simple or Wow!
5. Table shape
Either a small table or half circle works well.
Be comfortable with a velvet love seat, unique chairs or a bench
7. Place setting
Use your wedding china
Set your place with one of a kind glasses
Repurpose vintage design items
Nothing says romance like soft candlelight
On your wedding day keep your spirit light and ready for the unexpected. This amazing couple was photo bombed by the family farm chickens. A little boho friendly photo opt is definitely not planned but so FUN. We just styled around our cluckers and captured the whimsy spirit of the day.,,,making memories all day long. @codykrogmanphotography @kinkhairsalon @myblushevents
Sprinklefest 2017 coming this holiday season to St. Louis. We had a fun photo shoot with Kids and sweets...bringing families together. This summer project was a beautiful mess! The children not only cooked several baked goods but they approved the confections first hand. My Blush Events decorated the summer event with fun cotton linens in bright colors. Plates were actually small teal wooden circle-shaped mirrors. We found vintage soda bottles and used them as a whimsical addition to our table settings. @big_laugh_kitchen @lovelylensphoto
Luck of the horse shoe for your country chic wedding. Gold mason jars hold shades of pink and red blooms-this DIY bride had an idea of a run for the roses. To bring the red pop to the dessert table she smartly had a few red velvet cupcakes made and a few with light pink icing. We love the simplicity of the cake which stands out among the other colors showcasing her lucky day shoe. We thoroughly enjoyed coordinating this wedding on the family property. @codykrogman
How romantic!!! Today's modern bride is not the bride in the original movie Father of the Bride with Elizabeth Taylor. Bride's get married after their first child is born or after they have shared their lives together for many years. Whatever your love story, your wedding day will be a special and perfect day. The wedding tradition to not let the Groom or Bride see each other until the alter has morphed into the First Look. This has been created to give the couple a way to have a wedding moment that just belongs to them. This sweetheart "peek" is a very special wedding day moment just shared between the Bride and Groom and sometimes the wedding party hidden behind the building. Love all around! Cheers to the next 60 years. @codykrogman photography Published: Wedding Wire real weddings 2017.
Wedding trends ebb and flow but what remains always is the fact that all Brides are beautiful. Our bride chose to wear a blue chiffon halter top dress with multiple soft layers ending in a gorgeous train. Her wedding look is packed with one of a kind design. Blush to dark blue to teal paper flowers showcase her ceremony altar. The aisle design mimics her colors adding texture continuing the whimsy and wedding look she asked for My Blush Events to design. The bouquet needed to be large enough to compliment her ceremony design, and as you can see it is popping with style and perfection. The veil was chosen as a soft accent, not to be the main focal point but as an enhancement to the Bride's look. @codykrogman @flowersandweeds @theenchantedbride @pkpaperart @milleniumproductions @makupbyElin
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