Photo by Lisa Hessel Photography
I will start by immediately saying this: Facebook is not the first place to go after you’ve become engaged. If you only read one sentence from this post, it needs to be that one. Of course once your S.O. pops the question, you’ll want to yell to everyone you know about your happily ever after and Facebook seems to be the best place to broadcast your news.
But before your distant high school friends and cousin’s ex girlfriend find out, you should first tell your parents. And in person, if possible. If your parents are divorced, then try to tell them as close to the same time as possible. They want to hear the news from YOU, NOT someone else.
The only people that should hear about the engagement before them are any children you have. They will have a complicated reaction and a transition to make, so be sure to tell the ex in a timely manner as well to help them through it.
Then you should bring both you and your fiancé’s parents together to meet and celebrate. If distance is an issue, a phone call or handwritten note to the other side is a nice gesture.
Then I would advise you call other close relatives and friends, and then you may leak the news to the world via social media. Remember this order of operations! Hearing about a close friend or family member’s engagement on Facebook might offend some folks. Be considerate of your relationships before you get too excited and blast everyone online. An old-fashioned phone call or in-person visit is still the polite way to announce a future wedding.
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Pumpkin spice and romance is in the air! Engagement season has begun, folks! You’ll be seeing a spike in wedding engagements from Thanksgiving to Valentine’s Day, so hold on tight! Your Facebook feed is about to get busy.
Why is winter the prime time for proposing, though? Here are some fun statistics and theories about engagement season:
Winter begs for cuddling and romance, and the holidays inspire reflecting on important relationships with family and loved ones… it’s no wonder this is the time people end up popping the question! Do I hear sleigh bells… or wedding bells?
A while back I posted about alternatives to the classic sparkly engagement rings. And lately I have fallen in love with another atypical option: natural diamonds. Sure, they aren’t as sparkly or flashy as their man-made counterparts. But not every bride wants something flashy! There are so many reasons to consider a natural diamond; I don’t even know where to start…
As a wedding planner and stylist, of course I love scouring the popular wedding pages of Pinterest, renowned wedding site The Knot, Alive Wedding’s features, among so many others. I see a lot of lists along the lines of “50 Things You NEED To Do the Week of Your Wedding” and guess what… you don’t have to do 80% of them! Hiring a wedding planner eliminates a lot of the little things that would cause a bride some stress. I mean, 50 Things To Do?! That’s crazy! I’ve chosen several of these tasks and listed them below. Hire a wedding planner, coordinator, or even a day-of coordinator to check these off your list, or don’t even put them on your list at all…
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It’s expected that you’ll be exhausted and busy honeymooning after your wedding. But don’t let dress preservation slip your mind!
“So you can’t just put the plastic over a dress and put it in your closet?” No! Dress preservation is a special way of cleaning and preserving your wedding dress to keep it looking perfect and pristine. Stains are harder to remove with each day they sit and unseen sugar stains turn brown over time, making your dress look, well, gross. Cleaning is possibly the most important part of the preservation process and it can’t be done yourself… leave it to the professionals, NOT just a dry cleaner! A professional dress preserving service will clean the dress of all stains and care for the embellishments, then wrap the dress in acid free tissue paper and place it in a museum-quality archival box. I recommend The Enchanted Bride to my newly married ladies. I trust them completely and they are specialists when it comes to wedding dresses. Your dress will be in good hands!
Of course you have a lot of wedding planning to do, but before you rush to get everything ready for the big day, complete your pre-wedding bucket list first! Pinterest has plenty of pre-wedding ideas, but here are a few of my favorites that aren’t as crazy or expensive as “go to the Bahamas” or “go skydiving together…”
I don’t know about y’all, but I’m a sucker for those silly Buzzfeed quizzes. But I think this one tops them all… The Knot has a free quiz to help you find your perfect wedding venue, along with gorgeous pictures of your other curated recommendations! Of course an online quiz shouldn’t be your only wedding planning source, but it’s a quick and easy way to browse for what you want. I took the quiz myself and matched with the Seven Gables Inn in Clayton, MO! This Tudor-style inn is charming yet modern… two things I love! We’ve done several events there, including showers and receptions. It’s such a beautiful venue!
I think it goes without saying that weddings can get expensive pretty fast. You find small things to tack on here and there and before you know it, you’ve spent a few thousand dollars more than you planned for. Keeping that from happening in the first place is the best way to be able to feel like you can truly afford your wedding. Budgeting isn’t the most fun or glamorous part of planning your wedding, but it is one of the most crucial pieces.
No matter what the budget it, STICKING TO IT doesn’t have to be it’s own challenge! A wedding planner knows where the money will make the most impact, and she will keep you organized!
Photo by Cami Wade
I came across a touching article in the New York Times that tells a few anecdotes of couples that had decided to renew their vows. Wedding planners are seeing a huge spike in wedding renewals lately. But why? Here are some of my thoughts:
We’re here to plan your fabulous vow renewal because there’s always a reason to celebrate a happy marriage!
Emily is one of the few photographers I’ve had the pleasure of working with several times. She is one of my go-to wedding photographers because of her soft photo style and relaxing persona. She was the photographer for Traci and Allen’s wedding and her cupcake photo has always been a follower favorite. She is sure to snap some beautiful memories of your big day. Read more about the importance of a great professional photographer here or just go ahead and contact Emily!
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