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I will start by immediately saying this: Facebook is not the first place to go after you’ve become engaged. If you only read one sentence from this post, it needs to be that one. Of course once your S.O. pops the question, you’ll want to yell to everyone you know about your happily ever after and Facebook seems to be the best place to broadcast your news.
But before your distant high school friends and cousin’s ex girlfriend find out, you should first tell your parents. And in person, if possible. If your parents are divorced, then try to tell them as close to the same time as possible. They want to hear the news from YOU, NOT someone else.
The only people that should hear about the engagement before them are any children you have. They will have a complicated reaction and a transition to make, so be sure to tell the ex in a timely manner as well to help them through it.
Then you should bring both you and your fiancé’s parents together to meet and celebrate. If distance is an issue, a phone call or handwritten note to the other side is a nice gesture.
Then I would advise you call other close relatives and friends, and then you may leak the news to the world via social media. Remember this order of operations! Hearing about a close friend or family member’s engagement on Facebook might offend some folks. Be considerate of your relationships before you get too excited and blast everyone online. An old-fashioned phone call or in-person visit is still the polite way to announce a future wedding.
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